Tagged geriatrics

Dirty Little Secrets

Our culture tends to romanticize things or speak in euphemisms about the hard stuff. Nobody tells new mothers just how challenging the 24 hour presence of a newborn is. It would sound ungrateful. We soldiered on in relative silence, and unless you have the luxury and the joy of a family nearby that consists of…

Mind Your Elders

I’m getting some pushback about the term Olderhood. “Why not Elderhood” “Why or Seniorhood” I am asked. “I don’t want to be old.” they tell me. I called it Olderhood because everyone is older than someone. First graders hold sway over kindergarden kids. High school kids disdain the junior high group. Seniors are the elders…

When Moving Forward is Really Really Hard

For the person selling the family home in their 70s, 80s, or 90s, it represents so much more than a change of residence. And this group has a limited voice and not much say over what happens when adult children step in to be “practical” or “realistic”.  It is rather like looking at the folks…

Changing The Conversation

As we navigate the norms, and push against the complacency born of ignorance, exhaustion and isolation, we are slowly forging a new path through end of life issues. We must challenge all of it, the doctors, the funeral homes, Medicare, our families, the popular culture. Our death, and our bodies are ours alone and we…