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Get Lucky for 2016

Well, you made it another New Year’s.  It’s time to accept that you may be headed to the elite status of healthy,  active, nonagenarian. So accept the role and define it for 2016!  For fun, try starting a family tradition now! Many cultures have traditions to ring in the New Year and ensure anything from…

Caregivers Are Not Babysitters

One of the most telling examples of our culture’s regard for elders is the way caregivers often relate to them. Well intentioned caregivers often talk down to the person at home, as if they were children.  I remember resisting baby talk when I was raising my daughter and the same is true with elders. They may be frail, have trouble seeing, or hearing, or walking, but they are not incapable of irony, or a witty response, a good giggle, or having some silly fun. They can also do alot for themselves with some help. For example, if seeing is difficult, operating…

Pains and Gains

Aging is truly a bittersweet saga, full of enormous grace and beauty and crushingly painful limitations. Crushing because no matter how hard you try, the limitations cannot be vanquished. I have met some amazing women: artists and musicians in their mid-80s who are sharp and intellectual, who have beautiful perspectives on life and have many…

Fluburbs

We are starting to notice and internalize that we are going to live a lot longer than anyone thought. And the odds keep going up. In 1972 here in the states, the average years  left, after turning 85, was 5.5 years. By 2010 that had jumped to 6.5, which is impressive! Partly due to a…

Boomer Babies still influence fashion!

WOMEN OF A CERTAIN STYLE Amid fashion’s surge of interest in older women, ‘Iris’ focuses on one of the most singular figures By Ruthe Stein    For years, high-end fashion designers have tried to recruit Iris Apfel to wear their clothes as she makes her rounds in Manhattan. The reason they would want to align themselves with her is obvious. One of New York’s most recognizable fashion mavens, Apfel, now 93, attracts attention wherever she goes in her creatively constructed, brightly colored ensembles.   Apfel is flattered when top designers come after her, but she couldn’t be less interested. “Why would…

Mind Your Elders

I’m getting some pushback about the term Olderhood. “Why not Elderhood” “Why or Seniorhood” I am asked. “I don’t want to be old.” they tell me. I called it Olderhood because everyone is older than someone. First graders hold sway over kindergarden kids. High school kids disdain the junior high group. Seniors are the elders…